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 Are you Passive, Aggressive or Assertive? 

 Test your behaviour in just three minutes with our free online questionnaire and get your own personalised PDF report 


Use our free online assessment to determine your behaviour type
Download your full personalised report to analyse how you did!

Are you Passive, Aggressive, Assertive ... or maybe something else?

Have you ever wondered just where you fall on the behaviour spectrum? Does your response to a situation sometimes surprise you?

There are 15 questions below, each carefully designed to assess aspects of how you behave. Complete them and you will receive an immediate and detailed report on whether you are passive, aggressive, assertive ... or something else. It's free, it's anonymous, and you don't need to give any information to complete it. We hope you find it useful.

But you must answer these questions with what ACTUALLY applies to you, not what you WANT to apply to you. Your report will be based on the answers you give, so be 100% truthful!


Scroll down the page: there are 15 questions that will appear as you mouse over them: just click to select the answer for each.

Don't worry if a scenario doesn't apply directly to you, just imagine yourself in an equivalent situation.

And remember:

  • Don't over-think it
  • If none apply, pick the closest match
  • Be honest
Have fun and we hope you find it useful!

How to Use – and have fun with – the questionnaire
Question 1
You are giving a presentation to your staff at work but someone keeps interrupting you.
NOTE: If you don't give presentations, just think of a situation where you may be talking to a group of people
Presentation interrupted
You keep going because they will run out of questions sooner or later
You pause and wait for them to finish talking, then ask them if it could wait until after the presentation
You tell them to stop interrupting because it is preventing others from following what is being said
You keep talking but you make your displeasure known to the group, and complain to others about their behaviour after the presentation
You ask them whether they would like to take over the presentation
Question 2
You ask your team to start working on a new project, but you get the impression that they don't fully understand what is needed.
NOTE: If you don't manage a team, think of a time (at work, socially or at home) where you need the co-operation of a group of people
Mixed objectives
You tell them to pay attention because you do not want to repeat yourself
You let them start working on the project anyway, and if the results are not satisfactory, hold them responsible
You have a team meeting to go through the details again to make sure everyone knows what is required of them
You let them start on the assumption that they will come to you if they have any questions
You don't relish going through it all again, but as good practice, you ask whether anyone doesn't understand
Question 3
You have scheduled a meeting with a client but they failed to turn up, and your whole morning is wasted.
NOTE: If you don't deal with clients, imagine an important appointment where the other person lets you down
Missed meeting reaction
You assume they must have had a reason, and leave it to them to call back to explain what happened
You call them to find out what happened and see if you can re-schedule the meeting
You wait for them to get in touch, but then say you are now busy and cannot schedule another meeting
You inform the client that you are unhappy and they should be more considerate in the future
You say you understand that they are busy, but in future you would like them to tell you in advance if they cannot make it
Question 4
You ask an assistant to carry out a task by the end of the day and he agrees, but misses the deadline saying he needed more time.
NOTE: Don't have an assistant? Use an example where you need somebody (a colleague or friend) to help you
Deadline failure response
You tell them off for not completing the task
You ask them why they needed more time, but make the point that in the future they should see you before any deadline if this looks likely to happen again
You tell the assistant that it is OK, but to avoid a recurrence, you inform other people that they failed to complete the task on time
You finish the job yourself
You tell the assistant not to worry and reassign the task to someone else
Question 5
You are in a meeting with your staff and someone outside the office starts talking loudly on their phone, making it hard to concentrate.
NOTE: If you don't lead staff meetings, think of having a group discussion
Bad behaviour on phone
You ask if they could please have their phone conversation somewhere else as you are having a meeting
You tell them to stop disrupting your meeting
You carry on with the meeting because they will probably finish their phone conversation before long
You continue the meeting, complaining to attendees how unprofessional and ill-mannered they are being
You carry on with the meeting and when it is over you complain to their manager about them
Question 6
A junior member of staff who is habitually late for work has arrived late again.
NOTE: If you don't have responsibility for staff, imagine a situation where you need someone to turn up on time
Time keeping attitude
You pull them to one side and reprimand them, saying that this cannot continue
You do nothing because you are busy and they probably have a reason
You talk to them in private to find out why they are late and look for ways to help improve their timekeeping
You dress them down in front of others so that everyone knows where you stand on lateness
You assume they cannot change so you think about getting a replacement for their position
Question 7
When other people disagree with you, but you know you are right:
Disagreement behaviour
You offer your argument if asked but let them make their own mistakes
You ask about their view and give yours as an alternative
You let them get on with it
You still get your point across because they should know when they are wrong
You say that you think they are wrong and ask them to think about your opinion
Question 8
Someone who has criticised your methods in the past is struggling with a job that you have done well before.
Work struggle
You ignore their situation
You can't help enjoying their discomfort
You ask them if they want help, and assist as far as your work allows
You quickly offer to help even if you are busy
You offer to help but let them know that they were wrong about you
Question 9
When you make a mistake:
Behaviour after a mistake
You acknowledge it and contribute to finding a solution
You apologise and feel bad
You accept, but try to look for a situation, or person, that caused it
You find it difficult to admit mistakes to others, and can get a bit "spikey" in your manner
You often find yourself in an argument about what went wrong
Question 10
Which one is MOST like you when making decisions?
Decision making behaviour
If I have the facts, I want my way when deciding things
I generally agree with others
I agree with decisions but complain when the outcome is not what I expected
I am open to discussing other people's ideas
I often assume that their ideas will be less successful so I ignore them
Question 11
Which one is MOST like you when in an argument?
Argument style
I usually stay well in control of my emotions
I make sure I win important arguments
I justify my views in relation to those of others
I often agree with the argument but may well criticise the decision later
I prefer not to get into arguments
Question 12
Which one is MOST like you when dealing with work problems?
NOTE: If you don't go to work, there will still be times when you have problems with getting things done
Problem solving methods
I keep calm and deal with problems in a pretty relaxed way
I try to avoid confronting people so I generally keep out of it
I go along with others as best I can but make sure that I can cover myself if things go wrong
I get the people who caused the problem to fix it
I assume the problem will be fixed by someone else so I generally ignore it
Question 13
COMPLETE: When I am asked to do something that I haven't time to deal with, I will probably:
Work overload
Do my best to help
Go along with it but feel resentful
Turn down the request
Follow instructions but complain to others
Explain my position and offer alternatives
Question 14
COMPLETE: When someone hasn't done something I need them to do, I am likely to:
Busy at work
Reprimand them
Show my displeasure but work around the problem
Ask them what has gone wrong
See if they need help
Do it myself
Question 15
COMPLETE: If somebody steals a parking space I have been waiting for, I usually:
NOTE: Don't drive? You have probably been a passenger. Just put yourself in that position and think what you would do.
Car parking reaction
Drive off furiously
Shrug my shoulders and drive away
Leave my car parked so it blocks their exit
Park my car and get out to ask them to move
Sound my horn and mouth an insult before driving away

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